How to Get Him to Fall in Love with You ..
If you’ve been struggling to get the man you’re with to fully BE in the relationship with you – to commit his heart and his mind to you – to fall “IN love” with you and not just “love you,” then you know men don’t “work” the same way we women do.
You know there’s got to be some way to make this kind of love happen for you, but you just haven’t found it yet.
And you know for sure that what you’ve been doing – in fact, what you’ve always done (and most all of us woman have always done) – doesn’t work.
If you’re feeling stuck like this, you’re not alone.
I was there most of my life.
I’d get involved with one man way too quickly, give him my whole heart – even if he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship or wasn’t in love with me – and then break my own heart.
While I was writing this letter to you, I found myself going back over my whole history of my love life. Old feelings came back to me, and memories I didn’t know I had.
Along with the horrible memories of Imaginary Relationships there were memories of some men who’d loved me, but who I hadn’t loved. There were memories of a man I thought I’d lost because of the mistakes I was making, but in the memory, just being with him feels bad.
I’m so glad I took a moment to look back at this, because it really comes down to what I teach – that you can use everything that’s ever happened to you to QUICKLY get the man and the relationship you really want.
It’s as though everything else was a warm-up to my husband.
I realize now how scared I was of the “Real Thing.” And how long I pushed it away.
If you’re like I was, you think that being “cool” and “helpful” and “nice” and even “understanding” is the way to a man’s heart. And, If you’re like I was, and so many of my clients are, you’ve worked hard to ACT “cool” and “helpful” and “nice” and “understanding” – and even “sexy,” and just been shocked when, not only does that NOT make your man come closer – it seems to create even MORE distance between you.
And then – you get angry. Angry and resentful and tense.
And we all know what happens then.
We start to feel totally unappreciated, and we tell him so. We start asking for the “basics” that we should always be getting from a man – affection, attention, great sex, fun, and we start feeling hurt and telling him he’s hurting us. Every time we just try to “express” ourselves and tell him what’s wrong in the relationship and how it could be so much better – an argument starts. Pretty soon every conversation ends in angry words, and pretty soon conversation stops – because no one wants to fight, and yet – there’s a fight about everything.
Sometimes we get so frustrated we want to leave, but most of the time we get so frustrated we just want to shake him. When this goes on for awhile, we can get discouraged. We decide to work even harder at the relationship, and then what happens?
It all gets worse.
Or we give up.
Well, I won’t let you give up. And you don’t have to.
There’s a way to undo all the damage that’s happened and a way to make sure the painful patterns of anger and frustration never even get started.
If you want to take the next step in understanding how to avoid all of these traps, find your inner confidence and either set the relationship you have right again or start off a new relationship in a foolproof new way.
Most of us think a relationship is about emotions, and we’re right about that – but we ususally end up focusing on the WRONG emotions – his. So many of us get caught up in trying to make something happen on HIS END of the relationship – and that’s when we lose everything.
The moment we start trying to manipulate him, or use strategy or play games to “get” him, or cover over our real selves in order to “please” him, we kill the love that’s already there, and cut ourselves off from love in the future.
The moment we focus on HIM, instead of on ourselves, we lose ground.
But doing the opposite seems impossible. It seems hard. It seems way too scary – like letting go of the wheel of a car, or letting go of the rails when you’re up high or moving fast. And sometimes it feels impossible because we’ve never ever seen any other woman DO IT – and we have no clues about how to do it for ourselves.
So, how does a man fall in love?
And what does he love about you?
Well, first of all, if he’s dating you, he’s interested in you. So many of us feel so bad about ourselves we feel honored just to be asked out – and that’s not the way it is. He’s asking you out because he’s attracted to you, he’s interested in you, and he wants to spend time with you.
But here’s a good question – does he have a checklist of his own for falling in love?
You know – the woman he falls for has to look a certain way, act a certain way, do certain things, have a certain background or certain skills?
And the answer is – sure he has a checklist – going in. That means, he thinks he has a “type” and he thinks he knows what he wants. But all that goes out the window when he sees you.
Attraction has nothing to do with a checklist.
And I’m not talking about sexual attraction (which is something most men can feel for almost any woman). I’m talking about EMOTIONAL attraction.
Emotional Attraction, for a man, can happen instantly. And that’s what you want to invite him to do – be instantly emotionally attracted to you.
And that attraction will only GROW with time, as you allow him to see more and more of you by expressing your feelings in a way he can truly, deeply connect with, and let yourself be vulnerable in his presence.
The one thing I’d always done, and the thing that absolutely stops emotional attraction cold and starts resentment and fighting is PRETENDING.
And most of us are so afraid of “rocking the boat” or “looking bad” or “being weak” that we pretend to be strong and end up closing ourselves off from our men.
And instead of our feelings coming out all soft and true and clear and authenic and emotionally appealing – they way they REALLY ARE – they come out all spiky and angry and forward leaning. They come out as complaining and demanding and attacking.
And if we DON’T let them out that way, then we hold them in so long we either explode one day and destroy everything, or we get sick inside.
I don’t want you to have to go through any of that.
I want you to know what it took me so long to learn. How to let your feelings out without pushing a man away. How to use everything you’ve ever experienced, even the painful things, to bring him close. How to just BE with a man so he’ll feel helplessly, deeply, emotionally attracted to you, fall for you, and work hard to keep YOU.
That’s the way it happens for a man, and it’s my mission to help you have that experience, right now.
The thing is, if you THINK you’re expressing yourself now, but he isn’t falling, chances are you’re doing it the old way – the way that doesn’t work. If you’re feeling angry and resentful and thinking it’s HIS FAULT, then chances are that the way you’re looking at this is a big part of the problem. It’s likely that the way you’re looking at it is actually both CAUSING you to be upset, and causing HIM to upset you in the first place.
If you’re tired of doing things the same way and getting the same results, then you may be ready to take a new step in a different direction.
Instead of going down the road that leads to the same old places and same old romance dead- ends, you can undo the damage and quickly learn to do what actually WORKS so a man won’t be able to help himself – he’ll just fall in love with you.
You can change your love life from a string of Imaginary, painful relationships into the one relationship you really want. The one that will last you your whole life long.
Actually read the whole thing because its nice…. (you feel me)
+Kiss on the stomach = Im ready
+Kiss on the Forehead =”i hope we’re together forever”
+Kiss on the Ear = Your my everything
+Kiss on the Cheek = “We’re friends”
+Kiss on the Hand = “I adore you”
+Kiss on the Neck = “we belong together”
+Kiss on the Shoulder = “I want you”
+Kiss on the Lips = I love you”
What the gesture means…
+Holding Hands = “we definitely love each other”
+Slap on the Butt = “That’s mine”
+Holding on tight = “i don’t want to let go”
+Looking into each other’s Eyes = “i just plain love you”
+Playing with Hair = “Tell me you love me”
+Arms around the Waist = “I love you too much to let go”
Two policemen are going to work:
- Shall we take a bus or walk?
lets see what arrives first.
PRIDE WILL RETARD YOUR GROWTH AS A HUMAN BEING…..
IT WILL MAKE YOU NOT
REACH OUT TO A FRIEND WHO FEELS YOU HAVE WRONGED THEM…
PRIDE WILL NOT LET
YOU SAY I AM SORRY OR THAT I LOVE YOU…..
PRIDE WILL MAKE YOU NOT SPEAK TO A
BROTHER, SISTER OR FRIEND…..
PRIDE SOMETIMES WONT LET YOU SAY I LOVE
YOU… AND THIS IS TRAGIC IN A FRIENDSHIP OR
PRIDE…. BEING PROUD AND PRIDE ARE NOT THE SAME THING
BUT ONE MUST LOOK WITHIN ONES OWN SELF TO EXAMINE IT…
DONT LET YOUR
PRIDE KEEP YOU FROM CORRECTING A PAST ACTION….
THIS IS AN EMOTION I WORK
HARD AT CHECKING…… DO YOU..?
TODAY I AM REFLECTING ON THE EVENTS OF MY
LIFE AS MY DEGREE DAY DRAWS NEAR….. I QUESTION MY FRIENDSHIPS AND MY
RELATIONSHIPS AND I QUESTION THE PEOPLE WHO ARE IN MY LIFE…… ANALYZE AND
He kissed my ear, my lips gently pulled at my lobe and my tongue dated out as he
licked behind it. I moaned slowly turned my head as i did, he kissed along
my face until our lips almost met.
Our faces moved together in a union of trust. The moment was electric.. Our
lips rubbed together, tongues came out and gently explored… His breath and
mouth were wonderfully fresh and inviting.. kissing was so good that we kept at
it for a long time.. When we broke for air, i slowly got up, my hand in his..
with a coy, suggestive expression that spoke the unnecessary words..,,
Darwin led me into the bedroom.
The sun was shinning through the window onto the bed.. The covers and sheets
were of bright and warm colors. I stopped and faced him.. we embraced and
kissed.. he carried me letting me on the bed. I parted our bodies and unbuttoned
my blouse… The sun silhouetted his handsome chest.. The warmth of the
invitation was irresistible.
He lowered his head to my breast and cupped it in his hands.. his tongue
circled around the nipple, teasing it into hardness. He licked the nipple and
then used his lips to suck on it while licking.. I started moving sinuously and
moaned with delight. He switched to the other breast.. ( it too deserved equal
He then started kissing his way down my torso, licking under my breasts and
swirling his tongue down to my navel and i recoiled from ticklish feeling…. I
unfastened his shorts and pulled them half way down.
I was wearing a pair of delicate panties that contrasted my dark skin, made
my mons stand out in inviting fashion.. I looked so sexy in it.. He was
reluctant to remove my panties… But then he thought about what was inside and
let the lace went down around my ankles… His hands coaxed me to spread my legs
slightly, he kissed my mons and inhaled deeply… His manly order was sweet
pleasant and clean.. The pheromones hit me immediately.. he pulls my lips apart..
the sight was how you describe it…?? I almost had an orgasm staring at
He kissed me passionately and then stood up.. He quickly untie my bathrobe
belt and let it fall at my feet.. he was so excited, (you know what i am
saying……▼) We stood fully naked, staring at each other… He embraced me
and the feeling of his skin against mine was wonderfully sensuous… I pulled
back the covers and we lay side by side on the bed. Our hands ran over each
others bodies caressing and exploring. He gently rolled me over my back and he
asked me to relax and enjoy
His hands caressed my ears, eyes, cheeks, etc.. my tongue following behind. His hands and lips wandering down
my neck to over my chest to a breast. As he licked and suckled my nipples, his hands moved and caressed
down toward my mons. He moved his body further down between my legs. His mouth continued down
spending time licking my navel (hmmmmm wow, but not as ticklish this time). When his mouth got into
my mons, he paused to rearrange our bodies.
He got off bed and knelt at the side. He position me so that my bottom was at the edge of the bed, his head was between my legs, my legs were resting on his shoulders. That gave him good access to my crotch. He used his hands to part my labia again. As he stared at my crotch and inhaled my scent, he almost came again. But there was too much joy to enjoy yet. (hmm oh dear)… His tongue started by licking my labia slowly, back and forth, one side and then the other…
(close your eyes and use your imagination for a while)
to be continued…
Some are going through this phase of, should i hang on, does he/she love me, you ain’t getting the vibes. If you feel that way PLEASE, LET IT GO.. Even if it hurts. Move on..Remember you are WORTH….-
LOVE IS THE CONNECTION
THAT JOIN TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER
WHAT A SWEET CONNECTION
WHEN IT IS RIGHT IT WILL LAST FOREVER
BUT IF YOU GIVE IT A TRY
AND YOU CAN’T GET A VIBES, TAKE MY ADVICE
IF YOU HEARTS NOT IN IT LET IT GO
STOP WASTING TIME
DON’T FOOL YOURSELF IT WON’T GROW
NOW IF YOUR HEARTS NOT IN IT LET IT GO
STOP WASTING TIME, DON’T FOOL YOURSELF IT WON’T GROW
IT’S NOT LIKE A GAME
WHERE YOU LOOSE TODAY
AND WIN TOMORROW
USE UP YOUR BRAIN
YOU DON’T WANT YOUR WORLD TO TUMBLE OVER
DON’T YOU RUSH IN, CAUSE YOU’LL NEVER WIN
TAKE MY ADVICE
IF YOUR HEARTS NOT IN IT LET IT GO…!!!
(Thanks Beres Hammond, words so deep and true) One love…