*- TIME -*

*Time* decides who you meet in your life…Your *heart* decides who you want in your life…but it’s your *behavior* that decides who stays in your life…

YES.. it is true.. TIME is the key to all.. the HEART the master of most… and the BEHAVIOR.. determines lots…

Complete Me…by Bernice Angoh (taken from her book, Lemonade street)

Bernice Ango, author, novelist, song writer, Poet, and aspiring photographer

Bernice Angoh, author, novelist, song writer, Poet, and aspiring photographer

Complete Me

I don’t need you to complete me

I am already complete

I don’t need you to bring out the best in me

I’ve already done so,

I bring out the best in myself.

There is no amount of energy you ought to dispense

No work or obligation on your part

I don’t even need your love

I have enough of my own

to love you and to love myself

But if you must insist

let it be my token for you

love me

go ahead, do, that’s all I ask of you

Not because it’s what you must do, but because you can’t help it

Do not  become addicted to me

do not become codependent as most do

love me as though you may never have me

don’t pour your life into me

I wont get sucked into yours

Let’s share like we’re been doing

I will never ask you to be anything less or more, than you already are

You are enough

You will never belong to me, nor I, you

I cannot possess what I already have

I can only appreciate, nuture, love and respect it

And I do

I love you

When you are complete, you look for another complete person and you share.. The energy flows between you two. No one feels draubed by the other. That’s what constitutes a healthy relationship.

You may check her out at http://www.berniceangoh.com

Lemonade Street..

My Recreative thoughts by Humphrey Mosenge

There are infinite ways to show you I love you, our infrequent moments just won’t be enough for you to realize;

Top scientists feel strongly that this is true, but with the lack of language and tools they are left to just theorize.

I too feel the same but I leave it to be experienced, no such thing as beliefs just knowns and unknowns;

I get your ideas of love and of companionship, in my mind it is sown. All I have with you is just this moment, right here, holding you right now. All you want to do is think about it and judge whether its good or bad I don’t care, at this moment, its you I want. I am a being of focus and those infinite ways are beaming right at you.

Heart broken again…

This heart has been broken a million times, so this time ain’t so special babe!

My life’s journey is to seek enlightenment, to love everyone unconditionally!

You see it naive, because my love is childlike, seeing everything about you and loving it with all my heart.

I still love you and good luck in finding “the One”!

Life’s a gift, in it I choose Joy! I do not own it, I just be it!

Being receptive has alllowed me to be less critical, more understanding and happy!

For the most part, I accept eveything that happens to me as good. Even when I do not see it so, I have learnt to smile about it.

A million times plus this one actually had me laughing!

-Thanks Humphrey for sharing such a wonderful poem.. it’s very deep.. we all have gone through some kinda broken heart..!!

Fit For Fun..”2″ keeping fit got no age limit..

Physical…

It does not matter which way you choose to keep fit.. Whether it’s Pilates, Yoga to stretch and strengthen muscles and tendons..

Yoga

Physical activity is one of the best ways of boosting our health, such as jogging, long walks, workouts, dance, etc…

stretch

Another important thing to remeber is HEALTHY EATING .. What gets in must manifest itself in one way or the other. Some people are born lucky not to surfer the effects of certain food, while others  DO..

Try and find out what suits you best. it can be made enjoyable too… be it Vagan, Tropical treats or Gluten-Free

Stay fit,..Keep fit..love yourself..!!!

Thanks to my models Humphrey Mosenge. Therra Weinberg, Bernice Lakota, Cyril Sankara..

RELATIONSHIP~ “I am so fascinated by it, it almost seems like a mystery..!!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then hell no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things did not get better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending, compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary. Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr.. Right. Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies….. You’ll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.